HOW TO COPE WITH A LOST CHANCE
HOW NOT TO BE SAD WHEN WE “LOST A CHANCE”?
First – how do you know it was truly a chance? Are you 100% sure it would have brought you the positive result you wanted? You know, there are times when we’re angry with something happening not being aware that it had happened for our benefit. So, how not to be sad when we lost a chance? The first good step would be reading the story below:
A SITUATION EXAMPLE
This time we’re going to learn more about Brian. Brian works as a translator – he has both his private clients, and he works for a big translation company. He’d like to earn more, but his company doesn’t want to give him a pay raise, and when it comes to Brian’s private clients – he’s afraid of raising the prices. Brian has been reading a lot about being a businessman, and he decides to go for more. Despite being terrified, Brian decides to leave his company and charge his private customers higher prices. But the summer months come, and suddenly it gets much worse for Brian. People are massively on holidays, and his translation orders plummet. He thinks, ‘I should’ve stayed at my previous job. I’d feel secure… It was a mistake!’ But should Brian really start panicking?
Lost chance… or is it?
At the beginning of my career, I had many situations in which I supposedly missed a chance. For instance, I missed a call and then when I called back, the proposal wasn’t valid anymore. Or, I went on holidays and decided not to open my mailbox for a week. During exactly that week, I received the most urgent emails which were no longer valid due to my delayed response. As you can imagine, sometimes my frustration and anger with myself pushed me to the verge of tears.
Brian and taking matters into his own hands
Let’s come back to Brian. Even though he had a sickening feeling in the pit of his stomach, he decided to believe everything worked in his favour, and hence for sure these “negative situations” would turn out to be positive and perhaps bring him some opportunities.
Brian’s patience and positive outlook started paying off. During this slow period, he had the chance to work on his marketing strategies and improve his skills. He reached out to old clients, reconnected with his network, and even found new avenues for his translation services. Moreover, he decided to enroll in a book club, which he had thought about for a long time but never seemed to have time for, and met two fantastic people there who recommended him to his future big client. By the end of October, not only had his client base grown, but he also secured a few long-term contracts that provided a steady income.
In conclusion, what seemed like a lost chance for Brian turned out to be a blessing in disguise. His initial disappointment transformed into a period of growth and opportunity. Moreover, thanks to the book club he met his most important client, and if it weren’t for the. Setbacks are often setups for something greater. By maintaining faith and being proactive, we can turn any situation to our advantage.
My own tricks on how not to be sad when I lost a chance
Do you know that feeling when you’re super busy and give a certain thing a longing look? It could be a neighboring cafe you’d like to visit but never have time for, or perhaps you want to grow your own carrots, practice playing an instrument, or experiment in the kitchen. But of course, you have no time for that. Then suddenly, when you “lose your chance,” you find yourself with plenty of free time and a lot of frustration to blow off.
However, you don’t seem to remember all the things you wanted to do so badly. What I do is create a list of all the things I want to do so I don’t forget about them when “bad days” come. Then, I just open the list and suddenly feel excited about all the things I can do. Also, never forget about meditating for at least 5 minutes. I use guided meditations available on YouTube. You can find an example below.
A GUIDED MEDITATION EXAMPLE:
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